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Legal Cement

Posted on | October 21, 2009 | 7 Comments

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This morning, Greg and I were talking about how he is planning to formally adopt Sage. I recommended a good lawyer, and then I said, “But I think things would go a lot better if we were married. But I don’t imagine you want to marry me again.”

Greg said, “You really suck at this, you know?”

True, that.

At any rate, we are getting married again, and then will pursue the adoption. There won’t be any big deal or anything, we’re just doing paperwork. The same thing goes for the adoption. I think Greg is wonderful for being a real Dad to another person’s biological child, but we won’t make a big deal out of it, because Sage already sees Greg as being his dad, and it seems like making a big deal out of an adoption would take away from that somehow.

As far as getting married again, well, we’re pretty much common-law at this point anyway. I realized when Greg and I were separated that I could never be with anyone else, which pretty much leaves me in the position of working out problems when they arise, rather than running from them. I really do love the man. He’s one of a kind in so many ways, most of them good. ;-)

Edited to add…jeez, am I really coming off as being this pragmatic?? I’m excited about cementing our family together!

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7 Responses to “Legal Cement”

  1. Margaret
    October 21st, 2009 @ 2:23 am

    So, do I say congratulations or OH, not again? :) Seriously, any man who would parent a child not his own is great in my book. I don’t think my husband would.

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  2. Robert
    October 21st, 2009 @ 2:52 am

    CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

    Marriage is great. I should know – I’ve been married 3 times!

    Also, any guy who can truly father a child he didn’t create is a great guy! So you’re marrying a great guy.

    Any woman who can teach “difficult” children is a great woman. Great guy + great woman = marriage made in heaven! :)

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  3. Kelvin Kao
    October 21st, 2009 @ 5:26 am

    Good fathers are attractive, aren’t they? Congrats on whatever you have now and whatever you decide to do.

    I didn’t know Greg can adopt Sage without marrying, since Sage already has you as legal guardian. Is there a limit on how many people can adopt on child?

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  4. sonnie
    October 21st, 2009 @ 2:37 pm

    hooray for cement! :)

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  5. Ken Albin
    October 25th, 2009 @ 5:45 am

    Congrats to all of you! I wish you many years of happiness.

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  6. Pacian
    October 25th, 2009 @ 8:10 pm

    *high five*

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  7. JanePoet ~ JP/deb
    October 26th, 2009 @ 3:27 am

    when it’s right, it’s right …

    congratulations to each of you!

    love,
    deb

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